I’m not engaged, I’m not in a relationship, I not in the “like-like” stage, I don’t have a crush, I am single. I used to loathe saying that. Every time I said or thought those three words I felt like the ugly step-sister who had nothing going for her. I guess in a sense I was right, and not just in the fact that I have a step-sister. I had an ugly heart that was self-consumed, greedy, jealous, and immature. But I did have something going for me, I had Jesus. In the long run, my relationship with God is the only thing that is going for me. Without Him, I am nothing.
I don’t know if God has marriage in His plan for my life. If it is, then I want to be prepared. If it’s not, then I want to be prepared. And this is what I am doing to prepare myself.
I am growing as a Christian instead of assuming that I will ‘follow’ my husband spiritually. If I am to be a godly woman, I need to be constantly growing and learning about God. I am ever-growing closer to my heavenly father. My husband could never replace that. He could bring me closer to the cross, but he can’t bring me all the way there.
I am spending more time being myself instead of being available. I have spent so much time waiting around for a guy to text me asking to hang out. I tried to dress like his sisters, do things he was interested in, volunteering at events he was attending. (yes, I know. Creepy.) But all I did was ruined that relationship, open my heart to hurt, and desert who God made me in order to impress a guy who was oh-so handsome. I was blinded to anything else. I have learned since then that if God has a man out there for me, then he will love my quirkiness. We can be ourselves together.
I am living as a godly woman today, rather than thinking “I’ll be like that when I’m married.” I’m not going to lie, I used that excuse this morning when I convinced myself that eating 5 mini butterfingers and watching Netflix instead of drinking a healthy fruit smoothie and folding laundry was a more worthwhile and productive use of my time. But I’m not just talking about eating healthy and doing chores, I’m talking about living a godly lifestyle. Instead of constantly saying ‘tomorrow,’ I need to obey today!
I am becoming involved in more service in the church, especially where no one can see me. I was born with an extra-large ego and never did anything for someone else unless I got my due attention. To this day I need help in regards to diminishing my ego.
Matthew 6:2-4 ““Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they maybe praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. 3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4 so that your giving may be in secret.And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.”
I think it is essential for everyone whether single or married to learn to serve for the glory of God, not for the glory of themselves.
I am learning to communicate clearly. Yeah, I still have a lot of work to do with this one. I have trouble with listening to others and speaking what I’m thinking in a godly and loving way. Communication is vital in every single area in our lives, especially relationships.
So there you have it! Five things that I am doing today in order to glorify God tomorrow. What are you doing?
Married and Older Women: What are some pieces of advice you would give single girls?